3 Things Jesus Did that Blew People’s Minds (B186)

3 Things Jesus Did that Blew People’s Minds (B186)

When you grow up learning about Jesus, he seems like a normal guy. Perhaps nicer than the rest of us, but basically mainstream. This is because whatever you grow up with seems normal. But nothing could be further from the truth. Jesus shocked and awed people all the time. Jesus’ kindness was eye-popping and boundary shattering, 1. Jesus spoke with […]

A Single Truth About Emotions That May Change Your Life (504 words)

A Single Truth About Emotions That May Change Your Life (504 words)

(I am offering an observation based on my reading and my life. This blog post is not a substitute for therapy or medical treatment from licensed practitioners. This post is for information and reflection purposes only. I offer it because it has been helpful to me.) “You only have one emotional spigot.” That’s it. You cannot selectively turn some emotions […]

4 Ways to Kill Your <strike>Marriage</strike> Personal Growth (646 words)

4 Ways to Kill Your Marriage Personal Growth (646 words)

My observation is that the four horsemen of the marriage apocalypse from my previous four blog posts also apply to another important relationship: our relationship with ourselves. These are the four horsemen from Dr. Gottman’s excellent book, “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” (titles are linked to a blog post on each): Criticism Contempt Defensiveness Stonewalling As I reflected […]

4 Ways to Kill Your Marriage, part 4 (423 words)

4 Ways to Kill Your Marriage, part 4 (423 words)

In this series, I have been introducing you to four dangerous habits or attitudes that can infect your marriage. Dr. John Gottman labels these “the four horsemen.” The first three are (click the title to read the blog post on that horseman): Criticism Contempt Defensiveness The final horseman is… 4. Stonewalling The long-term presence of the other three horsemen will bring the […]

4 Ways to Kill Your Marriage, part 3 (371 words)

4 Ways to Kill Your Marriage, part 3 (371 words)

The first of Dr. John Gottman’s horsemen is “criticism.” The difference between criticism and complaint is this: a complaint focuses on a specific action while criticism is more global, focusing on your mate’s personality and character. (CLICK HERE to read the post on horseman 1) The second of Gottman’s horsemen is “contempt” and he considers it the most deadly. Contempt […]