Thing 5: Act Like An Ant (b215)

Henry Ford said, “Nothing is particularly hard if you divide it into small jobs.” This is true in every area of our lives from education to careers to health to relationships. Success is not achieved in one giant step. It is the sum of small steps taken consistently toward a larger goal.

In this chapter, Henry Cloud talks about the trouble he had working on his dissertation…

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Thing 4: Do Something (b214)

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People who are successful, whatever their definition of “success,” are people who do something. They take responsibility for their lives and take action accordingly. ┬áThe situation may not be their fault, but they still take action to move forward. That action might be to wait, but even the decision to wait is a conscious decision made with a sense of intention rather than resignation to forces outside their control.

There are several ways to talk about this principle…

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Thing 3: Play the Movie (b213)

This is the third in a post series on Dr. Henry Cloud’s excellent book: “9 Things You Simply Must Do to Succeed in Love and Life.” Read previous posts:


“Play the Movie” is a principle that I use on my kids all the time. If I confront one of my children in some infraction of attitude or behavior and he doesn’t back down, I say, “Play this movie forward. Where does it go if you keep acting like this? Does it end well? Does the child ever end up getting his way?” Kids understand plot arcs as much as anyone. They can “read the scene” and predict where it’s headed. Often this helps her choose a new direction.

This is exactly Dr. Cloud’s point with his third thing that you must do to succeed in love and life. You must think of the future consequences of your current actions and attitudes. You must “read the scene” of what you are doing now and play it out to see where it goes.

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If you are facing a situation or decision…

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