7 Proven Benefits of Gratitude (b217)

CLICK HERE to download your printable Gratitude Journal PDF.


Amy Morin, psychotherapist and the author of “13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do,” reports these seven proven benefits of gratitude in a blog post for Forbes.com (read the post here):

  1. Gratitude opens the door to more relationships.
  2. Gratitude improves physical health.
  3. Gratitude improves psychological health.
  4. Gratitude enhances empathy and reduces aggression.
  5. Grateful people sleep better.
    • (Of special note for this email: Writing in a gratitude journal improves sleep, according to a 2011 study published in Applied Psychology: Health and Well-Being.)
  6. Gratitude improves self-esteem.
  7. Gratitude increases mental strength.

Why would you not take just a few moments each day to jot down thankful thoughts if these benefits await you?

I don’t know!

But I know there are people who haven’t downloaded and printed their one-page gratitude journal for November. If that’s you, now is the time. I won’t keep bugging you. I may send one more email after this.

This day may be an important crossroads in your life. Will you choose an attitude of gratitude with all it’s known benefits?

If you are skeptical, what have you got to lose? It’s free. It takes about two minutes a day. Try it and see.

Download the November Gratitude Journal PDF. Print out a bunch of copies. Give one to every member of your family. Then get to know your loved ones in a deeper way as you celebrate Thanksgiving.

CLICK HERE to download your printable Gratitude Journal PDF.

I encourage you to share this gratitude journal with your friends and loved ones. Either forward this email or print a copy and give it to them.

With a grateful heart,

Thing 6: Hate Well (b216)

This one threw me. I admit it. I think a great deal about growing in love. But I don’t often think about what I should be hating.

Dr. Cloud recounts a time when a new business partner learned of some debt owed by the partnership after he bought in. He scheduled a meeting with all the partners. He told them all firmly and clearly, “I don’t mind problems. Business is about solving problems. But I hate surprises.”

In many ways, what we love and what we hate define us.

In many ways, what we love and hate defines us. Click To Tweet

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Thing 5: Act Like An Ant (b215)

Henry Ford said, “Nothing is particularly hard if you divide it into small jobs.” This is true in every area of our lives from education to careers to health to relationships. Success is not achieved in one giant step. It is the sum of small steps taken consistently toward a larger goal.

In this chapter, Henry Cloud talks about the trouble he had working on his dissertation…

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Thing 4: Do Something (b214)

This is the fourth in a post series on Dr. Henry Cloud’s excellent book: “9 Things You Simply Must Do to Succeed in Love and Life.” Read previous posts:

People who are successful, whatever their definition of “success,” are people who do something. They take responsibility for their lives and take action accordingly.  The situation may not be their fault, but they still take action to move forward. That action might be to wait, but even the decision to wait is a conscious decision made with a sense of intention rather than resignation to forces outside their control.

There are several ways to talk about this principle…

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Thing 3: Play the Movie (b213)

This is the third in a post series on Dr. Henry Cloud’s excellent book: “9 Things You Simply Must Do to Succeed in Love and Life.” Read previous posts:

“Play the Movie” is a principle that I use on my kids all the time. If I confront one of my children in some infraction of attitude or behavior and he doesn’t back down, I say, “Play this movie forward. Where does it go if you keep acting like this? Does it end well? Does the child ever end up getting his way?” Kids understand plot arcs as much as anyone. They can “read the scene” and predict where it’s headed. Often this helps her choose a new direction.

This is exactly Dr. Cloud’s point with his third thing that you must do to succeed in love and life. You must think of the future consequences of your current actions and attitudes. You must “read the scene” of what you are doing now and play it out to see where it goes.

The future will come. Your decision is about where you will be and what you will be doing. Click To Tweet

If you are facing a situation or decision…

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Thing 2: Pull the Tooth (b212)

This is the second in a post series on Dr. Henry Cloud’s excellent book: “9 Things You Simply Must Do to Succeed in Love and Life.” Read the post on “Thing 1: Dig It Up

Dr. Cloud summarizes this principle this way: Successful people do not hang on to bad stuff for long. While a positive attitude is a good thing, ignoring things that need to be addressed will prove to be a roadblock in your life. If the tooth needs pulling, don’t wait. Get ‘er done. Pull the tooth!

In this chapter, Dr. Cloud distinguishes between things that are not a big deal but not positively contributing to life and things that are truly negative.

Successful people do not hang on to bad stuff for long. - Dr. Henry Cloud Click To Tweet


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Thing 1: Dig It Up (b211)

This series of blog posts will cover Dr. Henry Cloud’s “Nine Things You Simply Must Do to Succeed in Love and Life.” It’s a book I’ve read/listened to more than once. I’ve found it helpful so I’m offering these blog posts to you. If you find these helpful, consider reading or listening to the entire book. It’s well-written and accessible, with plenty of anecdotes.

In his years of dealing with people of varying degrees of success, psychologist and author, Dr. Henry Cloud, writes that he has noticed nine ways of dealing with self and life that “successful” people appear to have in common.

Note well that Dr. Cloud does not define success in terms of wealth or status. His definition of “success” rests on the way people’s lives are lived. Are they fulfilled? Are they peaceful? Is their life moving in a direction that they want it to move?


In summary, this principle recognizes that the outer life arises from the inner life. Successful people take the time and effort to dig inside themselves. They find and own their own dreams, desires, talents and other treasures of the soul. And they honor them.

This doesn’t mean dropping your responsibilities and rushing off half-cocked to fulfill your dreams right now.


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