Here’s a simple way to evaluate something you are contemplating saying or doing:
Would you want that behavior or choice in bold print on the front page of the paper?
Private stuff is, of course, private stuff. That’s why I say “no pictures or details.” But I think this question can be helpful in at least two ways:
Second, people often have an image they like to project that is not exactly who they really are. This gap between who we want to be seen as and who we actually are causes tension in our lives. The more we can close that gap, the more we will feel like we are living authentically.
This may not be the last word or the best word on evaluating your behavior. It might also be dangerous if it causes you false guilt or hypersensitivity to how you are spending every moment of your life. This question could leave you curled up and whimpering in a corner if you are unable to be gracious to yourself, because we’ve all done and will do things that we certainly don’t want proclaimed and are not proud of. And, of course, it is quite useless if you are proud of your bad behavior.
That’s what I’m thinking today as I continue on this journey of life…